A lesson learned while in the midst of premarital counseling, reading, and studying about marriage before our upcoming marriage.
There is no such thing as “marriage problems” but there is such thing as sin problems.
To say one has marriage problems is to blame the battlefield for the battle, which is illogical. It is not the grassy knoll that has a problem, but the issue resides between the two sides which are waging war.
Marriage is the battlefield; the war with sin is the battle. And this battle with sin is fought within you!
Galatians 5:17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.
The war is not with my spouse, but with sin.
Don’t blame circumstances for your behavior, and don’t use circumstances to justify your behavior. Be humble and look for the sin in your own life that needs to be repented of, and repent.