I am in the last days of singleness and am preparing for a life of marriage. God has blessed me with a godly woman who is absolutely gorgeous! I am blessed beyond what I deserve! I started thinking about an important question when it comes to a dating, courting, engagement, or marriage relationship. How do you know if your relationship is spiritually healthy?
Something I have experienced in my relationship with my fiancée is that more of my sin has been exposed and brought into view. Why is this good and healthy? Being in a relationship where each of you expose sin in each other’s life is healthy because it means the focus of the relationship is on being obedient to Jesus Christ and living more like Christ. If a relationship does not expose any sin, then I would question whether the relationship is founded on Jesus Christ. Being in a relationship with Jesus Christ has made me holy and righteous in the sight of God. If marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church, then my relationship with my fiancée should be a catalyst for our sanctification.
A sign of a healthy and godly relationship is that sin is exposed, repented of, and both people live more holy and righteous because of the influence of Jesus.
2 Corinthians 7:1 “Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God.”